female abstinence?

If there is a single force in this universe that can knock me flat on my back and cause me to struggle to regain my footing, it's got to be women. Wondering where I stand with a particular girl, where things are with a particular girl, where things are going, and finally dealing with all the messy trimmings after a breakup. I've been talking about my girl problems with my friends so much that *I'm* getting fed up hearing about it!

So my options at this point are:

a) abstain from women
b) continue throwing myself to the lions and see how I fare

Option "a" has its merits. It gives me space to heal, some space to regrow who I am, and gives me time to build a better balanced foundation for when I'm ready. I'm a digital person - on or off. I can either think about them, or put them completely away in my mind. If I know I'm abstaining, I start viewing flirtations as friendly chats, the people suddenly become a single unified gender, and I approach breakups with a certain level of stoicism.

Option "b" obviously has its own merits. Aside from the obvious "Obi, you should get some ass" (not particularly interested anymore) merit, there's the enjoyment of indulging in a woman's company, feeling uninhibited, and the potential for a very very nice relationship (whether dating or otherwise).

On top of that, I've recently realized that I ENJOY being placed in a position of extreme discomfort - it's where I usually grow as a person. The angst, the misery and the frustrations are all lessons that act as catalysts for a bigger better Obi-tron 3000.

So basically, do I run away from women or do I stick it out and learn how to better deal with women? Do I stay or do I go now? I know if I go there will be trouble. I konw if I stay it will be double... (love the oldies!)

Well, this also assumes that I get a chance to interact with a girl in that fasion anyway... but that's just a very small minor detail...